Getting through tough times-financial trouble

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There is nothing more stressful than having money problems. I know because I have been there. Way more often than I’d like to admit. I’ve actually spent nights up crying because I didn’t know how I was going to pay my bills. Most of my trouble came from a little credit card trouble I had gotten myself into early in life. Looking back, it really wasn’t anything major. It was a couple of department store cards, like Macy’s and Strawbridge’s (Remember Strawbridge’s???) as well as Victoria Secret. But at the time I felt like I would never get out of debt and my life was over. I did ruin my credit for some time but now I’m a proud owner of a 700+ credit score. So know, if you get things in order you can repair your credit. It will take some time though.

This early lesson in life is probably what led me to living a pretty frugal lifestyle (alright, it made me cheap!) My husband and I are bargain shoppers for the most part. Sometimes we splurge on things but day to day life is pretty low key. We don’t buy coffee on our way to work. We make it at home and take it with us. We never buy our lunch…we also take that with us. Before we go grocery shopping, we sit down with the sales flyer from that week and look for what is on sale. If one of our regular items is full price that week we see if we can stretch it for another week to see if a sale comes up next week. If we can’t stretch it then we then we take the hit and get it anyway. But we are chronic stocker uppers. When we do see one of our regular items on sale, we get a few to have on hand. We also go with a list. We don’t stray from our list. This is how you spend more money than you should.

If you are in spot where you can’t really make your monthly bills than you need to cut out some spending somewhere. OR you need to bring in more money. Can you get a second job, ask for a raise, start a side hustle? There really are all kinds of things you can do to bring in a little more income you just have to put some thought into what you have to offer people that you can charge for. But the most important thing to do is to curtail your spending. Do you go out to eat often? Then you know how expensive it is. As much as we are shocked at how much our grocery bill is every week (it really does add up fast) it is still usually cheaper than one dinner out. We don’t go out to eat often. It’s just too much money. Especially because we live in a resort area and prices are outrageous. Start making your coffee at home. Do your nails yourself. I always do my finger nails myself (I do like to get my toes done professionally), but I usually just get polish. I know a lot of ladies are getting gel manicures and some type of artificial nail that needs upkeep. Can you sacrifice your nails for a few months until you get back on track? This is when some tough decisions need to be made and yes, you will have to give up some of your favorite things for a while.

Nobody wants to spend their free time working another job or giving up some of your favorite things but alleviating the stress of financial strain will be so worth it. Trust me. Joe and I could always use a little bit more of a cushion but we aren’t so bad. We are also trying to make up for some lost time in our contributing to 401K plans.

That’s another thing…are you middle aged or approaching it? You need to get your retirement plan in order if you haven’t already. I would tell the young people listening to start saving for retirement now but I was told that and never did it. But it is so important. The earlier the better.

We all talk about money being evil but it’s when we are without it that we think that. Sometimes we have to make the hard choices and do things we don’t want to do or do without things we love in order to make our financial statements match up. It’s really up to you but there is a whole lot of peace of mind knowing you can pay all your bills.

It’s “I wish it were cocktail Friday” Thursday. Check on the new pictures on my website. Hopefulist.com. Tomorrow on the Hopefulist….we party. It’s my 50th episode and I’m so excited! We are going to have a great time. Now, go make it your best day yet!

 

Listen to me discuss this topic today on my daily podcast available at Hopefulist.com, on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and TuneIn. Just search for “The Hopefulist”!

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Getting through tough times-loss of job

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I’m pretty much an expert on this one. I have lost a lot of jobs in my lifetime. Mostly it’s the nature of the business I’m in but sometimes I was fired because people didn’t think I did a good job. Losing a job can rock you to your core. It can shake your whole world upside down and if you blame yourself or don’t even know the reason why then it can be even worse. It seems strange to me that employers aren’t honest when letting people go from their jobs. I lost a job once when I was still a teenager and I later found out they thought I talked too much on the job. Why couldn’t they tell me that? Wouldn’t that be beneficial for me to know going forward? They are already giving me the boot so just be honest and don’t be such a chicken! Geez!

I lost a job one time when I was a server at a bar/restaurant. I wasn’t always the friendliest of servers. I knew this. I used to be a bit of a grouch. But it still hurts when you are told that you are driving customers away. (I actually think it was one regular who just didn’t like me. He wasn’t nice to me, so I wasn’t very nice to him. I wasn’t rude but I wasn’t friendly either.)

I was laid off from an office job once and when they needed someone for that position again, they didn’t call me. I haven’t worked in an office much and I think I am too efficient for such jobs. I know that sounds kind of funny but I’m extremely task oriented. I had to be in radio. If I wasn’t ready when those microphones went on, then I looked like a fool. So, when I had something that had to be done I did it immediately. There was no putting it off for later. Which is what I think happens a lot in an office atmosphere. So, I ended up sitting around a lot because I always got everything done. I don’t think they liked me sitting around. It wasn’t like I wasn’t doing my work….I just got it done pretty fast.

When it comes to my radio jobs, I have usually been able to pinpoint exactly why I have lost certain jobs. Most of them being a change of ownership and it is typical for them fire the current on-air staff and start fresh. Other times I knew I made a mistake about things I had said regarding my future at said radio station. I’m still baffled as to what happened with this last go around. I believe with my whole heart I didn’t do anything to warrant losing my job. Which makes it hurt even worse. I can’t even think….I won’t make that mistake again, because I don’t think I made a mistake!

BUT now that it has happened, I need to move on from it. I need to get moving on the next chapter of my career. You may or may not know that I started this blog about a week or so before I lost my job. So, I was already writing. The idea for a podcast came about a week later. I am just so tired of losing my job for things that are out of my control. So, the only way I can avoid that is to take control myself. I can still do what I love and, in a way, that I get to call all the shots. I make all the decisions. I pick the blog posts; I pick the topics…I decide how long or short I want to make my episode that day. It’s great and I’ve never loved doing anything as much as I love this. And mostly, I feel like I’m helping people. I feel like there are those who want to hear my message. Who are truly benefiting from my message and that makes me so excited and happy! I want to help inspire and show you positivity every darn day! Do you know what the best part of all of this is? I discovered my true calling. I know, deep down inside, that this is what I am meant to be doing. There is no second guessing, wondering if I’m doing the right thing. I know I’m on the right path. And you will too once you find your true calling.

If people are telling you some of the things in the quote above…DON’T STOP. If you are being you and doing the job properly in the way you know how to do it best then you keep doing what you are doing. Some people still don’t like women in authority positions. They get called bossy, bitchy, pushy, all kinds of names. In the same situations that men would be called leaders and intuitive. Don’t back down. If there is an employer who doesn’t like your tactics. If you aren’t breaking any rules or company policies, then you do you. I’m not telling you to go rogue or anything but don’t let others make you feel bad for being aggressive and ambitious.

If you do end up in a situation like me and don’t know where to go next. Ask yourself every question possible about where you can head next. Do you need to find a job with a company? That’s what I always thought. Then it occurred to me….I really don’t in order to do what I want to. Question everything? What do you love doing more than anything? Can you make money at it? Even if it may take a while to start bringing in some cash. If you can swing it financially, then please chase that dream. If not now, then when????? Now is the time. In fact, don’t wait to lose your job. Figure out your dream now. RIGHT NOW! And get moving on it. Do whatever it takes. When you are on your intended path you won’t wonder if you are doing the right thing. You will KNOW. You’ll feel it. You won’t look for validation from other people because you don’t need it. You know what you are doing, and you know, deep in your heart, what it takes to get there. I get tons of feedback from people who listen and read my stuff but that’s only about content. Not the mechanics of it. Find your passion. Pursue it with all that you’ve got. You will never regret a day in your life. Trust me! Three months ago, I was coming home from work everyday frustrated that I had to work with a partner who was extremely difficult. No more! I’m free! I’m happy! I’m doing me! And I’ve never felt better in my entire life. I want this for you too! If you need some help figuring out your passion…message me! Maybe we can brainstorm together. I want everyone to have this amazing life I’m leading, and I will do all I can to get you started!

It’s hump day! And just so you know, my 50th episode is coming up on Friday. 50 episodes in two months! It will be a party day on The Hopefulist! I hope you can join us! And check out Hopefulist.com! Now, go make it your best day yet!

 

Listen to me discuss this topic today on my daily podcast available at Hopefulist.com, on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and TuneIn. Just search for “The Hopefulist”!

My website is up and running everyone! I’m so freaking excited! It’s your one stop spot for everything “The Hopefulist”. Please check it out at Hopefulist.com.

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Getting through tough times-Fallouts

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There are some people in our lives that don’t have our best interests at heart. As unfortunate as that is…it’s absolutely true. And the more you work on yourself and start doing what you need to do for yourself and to follow your true path…the more people you will find that won’t be very supportive. The good news is you will find a whole new crew that will be more aligned with where you are headed.

I’ve talked about my difficult relationship with my mother before she passed. She took some actions in her final wishes that I believe were an intentional punishment for not being the daughter she wanted. A slap in the face, so to speak. I don’t have a close relationship with my father either. I’ve always wondered what it is about me that makes even my own parents not have much interest in my life. It hurts. I don’t understand why this has happened to me. Am I such a horrible person that even my parents don’t want anything to do with me? I don’t think I’m a horrible person at all. I think I am just lovely. In fact, some would say delightful! I know on some level it’s not really my fault but it’s so hard to figure it out. And I’m tired of feeling like I don’t matter. So, I went back to my therapist for a couple of sessions.

She has helped me to see that it truly is on them (my parents). That they exhibit traits that show they are avoidant or even punishing if they don’t get what they want. I try to be a good daughter. I know I’m not the best daughter but I truly do try. I don’t always feel or felt like I got that in return. And I know that I deserve to be loved. I deserve to be a priority in the lives of the people who surround me. So if you aren’t feeling that from your crew…then it’s time to put some serious thought into certain relationships to see how they are contributing to your life.

I had considered cutting off contact with my mother several times through the years but I never followed through with it. There was a time that we didn’t speak at all for about 6 months because she was upset with my sister and I about something. Once she came around and admitted that she was wrong (this time she was so wrong) it was hard for me to accept her back into my life. But I did. Maybe I shouldn’t have because the relationship just got worse over the years. And she always blamed me for everything. Nothing was ever her fault. Even if she admitted she could see why I was upset…she would say she didn’t mean it that way. I guess that was her way of letting herself off the hook. And in the end, she hurt me in the most lasting way by giving me that last slap on her way to the spiritual world. I have to remind myself (constantly) that it was because of her issues and the way she was. Like I said, I don’t consider myself blameless but I honestly did try. I have to be okay and satisfied with that.

I’ve had fall outs with friends through the years that have been extremely hurtful. Some have just drifted away but some have been an argument that led to the demise of the friendship. I recently got into an argument with a friend and as I was attempting to make things better this other person just took everything in a way it wasn’t intended and ended up telling me off. Once again, I tried. I reached out to let them know that I wanted to see if there was a way to resolve the issue and I didn’t get a kind reply. So, I’m done. I can’t worry about it. I’m sorry I no longer have her friendship but sometimes situations become toxic and it’s best to just move along. I had another issue with a different friend who just suddenly stopped showing up in my life. I reached out to see if there was something wrong and was told that they were just busy and haven’t had time to see many people. This was a person I spent several days a week with. From that to not talking at all for weeks at a time. Hmmm….okay, I hung in there but she never got unbusy. For me anyway. I reached out another time and we got together to talk. I thought things were back on track after that. I would reach out to her and she would respond but still didn’t make much time for me. After a while I stopped reaching out and she didn’t reach out in return. I can’t sit around trying to figure out what happened anymore. I tried several times and things are still the same. Time to move on.

Meanwhile, I have so many friends now it’s incredible. I still have some tried and true friends from all different seasons in my life and I’ve recently made a ton of new gal pals with book clubs I have joined or neighborhood groups. It’s easier to make friends now than ever with social media groups and all types of meet ups.

As you continue on your journey to a better life people will resent that as well. You can’t worry about that. People will be annoyed if you don’t pay as much attention to them anymore. Or if you can’t do all the favors or meet up with them as much as you used to. Again, you can’t worry about it. You are your top priority and you have to take the steps that will get you where you want to go. The people in your crew will understand that and have your back no matter what. But we do lose friends and sometimes must cut ties with family members. It doesn’t mean you are a bad person. It just means that person served their purpose in your story and they aren’t in the next chapter. You will meet new people….the ones who will challenge you to grow and move in the direction you are going. Trust me! Do the best you can and if it doesn’t work, then move on. I know it’s so cliché but it truly is their loss.

Like I mentioned, I’m just lovely…some would even say delightful. If you don’t want to be part of that…I feel bad. Because I am super fun and you are missing out. But there is only so much a person can do. You are better than begging for friendship. Nope….not us. We won’t be doing that.

So keep doing you and don’t worry about those who don’t want to continue on your journey. You just keep being a big ole badass! Because you are, goshnabbit!

It’s taco Tuesday so go grab one and maybe a margarita. And make it your best day yet.

Listen to me discuss this topic today on my daily podcast available at Hopefulist.com, on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and TuneIn. Just search for “The Hopefulist”!

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Getting through tough times – breakups

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Heartache is the worst type of pain to go through. It’s all consuming. It feels like your world is ending and can seem like it will never get better. The worst part about the end of a relationship is it’s so personal. If it wasn’t your choice to end the connection, then it just leaves you with a feeling of not being good enough. I get it. I’ve been there and yes, it totally sucks. It feels like the end of the world. But it is not. Things will get better and you know this from the rational part of you. The part that thinks with your brain…you just need for your heart to catch up.

I remember going through a breakup while working at a radio station in Philadelphia. The host of the show I was working on insisted on us sharing our real lives on the air. I had called him the night of the breakup and told him I would talk about it but I needed a few days to get my emotions under control. Then I proceeded to stay up all night bawling my eyes out. Meanwhile, the show was getting a brand-new producer who had worked with some of the best in the business. My first-time meeting and working with him was the day after my breakup. So ladies, you know what you look like after a full night of crying, right? I was a mess. My eyes were so red and swollen. When I first met the new producer, he looked at me and said; “Wow, are you on drugs?” He came to find out through the morning what had happened. He gave me some words of advice. He said….you will think about this 24 hours today. But tomorrow you will only think about 23 hours and 59 minutes. And a minute less the next day. You just have to do the time.

No matter the circumstances of the split…this is the time for some serious self-care. Even if it is completely your fault and you are so sorry that your actions caused the demise of your relationship…now, you know better. We all make mistakes. Some have more serious consequences than others and if this is one of the times that the punishment is harsh…just accept it and move on. Be kind to yourself. As kind as you would be to a friend that is going through the same thing…because we are our best friends. If you aren’t your own best friend…stick with me, I’ll show you how to change that.

If it was not because of something you did then it is probably even worse. Then you are left with a feeling of why wasn’t I good enough? What did I do to make them stop loving me? It’s truly awful. Again, this is the time to be kind to yourself and indulge in some serious self-care. I do encourage you to ask yourself the questions to yourself that are nagging at you. If you can figure out where things started to go wrong that help give you some peace of mind. Remember that things sometimes don’t work out because something better is waiting for you. Now is a great thing to take stock of the type of person you are. Do you like yourself and are happy with your life aside from the current breakup? Great, then this just wasn’t the relationship that was meant for you. If you think you did some things to contribute to it and you wish to change certain aspects of yourself, then do it. Start working on it today.  But be kind to yourself in the meantime.

Now is the time to indulge in things that bring you joy. I took a day trip to New York City one time not long after a breakup. I had always thought that I would do all the things I wanted to do when I got a boyfriend so I wouldn’t have to do them alone. It turns out his person was a major couch potato and never liked to do anything. So, I bought myself a ticket to a Broadway show. I drove to Hoboken, NJ and took the PATH train into the city. I had never been on a subway type train before and was scared to death I was going to get on the wrong train. As I was walking on the platform I asked a man walking by if this was the train to 33rd street. He said, yep. I said; “Are you sure?” He responded with; “I’m the one driving it so yes, I’m sure.” I guess that was definite confirmation! I even loved the train ride…going through the tunnels and all the twisting and turning. It was so New York! I took myself to a fancy, famous restaurant for lunch and then saw my show. I drove home that night blasting music that I had just bought at the famed Capitol Records store. What a great day. One that sticks out in my memory like no other. Not only was I doing something I had wanted to do for a long time but I did it all by myself. I had a great time and I felt so good breaking though my personal barriers and getting over my fear of doing things on my own. From that point on I wasn’t afraid of going anywhere by myself.

Do whatever you love most and do it as often as possible. Is there a certain candle scent that you love? Buy it and light it the minute you get home from work. Do you enjoy long, leisurely baths? Then get some fancy bath salts, bubble bath or bath bombs and indulge! Get your nails done. Get your hair done. Get some professional pictures taken where you look your absolute best. I mention this because my cousin was just visiting and she is a photographer.  One morning before we headed out I did my hair and full on makeup. I asked her if she could take some pictures of me for my website. We did some inside, outside, sitting at the computer, with the dog. The pictures came out so great. I’m not even sure it’s me because the pictures look that great. But it is me…I remember getting them taken. I just put one of them up on my profile page and there are so many comments about how great I look. So, she obviously knows the right angles and lighting to make me look my best. And no, I don’t look like this everyday but it’s obviously possible. She caught something in these shots and they are me. So, I must be able to look great sometimes (at least). Do something like that. Label the shots “the new independent me”! It’s worth it. Look at the picture often to remind yourself how great you can look and how great you really are!

When a breakup happens, we just have to walk with the pain and learn the lessons intended for us before we can move on to a better place. But a better place is indeed waiting. Don’t drown in misery. It’s not worth it and most likely won’t change your circumstances anyway. Be kind to yourself and do the things you love. Because you deserve it! Love yourself and someone wonderful will want to love you to. Because you are great!

It’s Monday….a brand new week full of possibility and opportunity. Have a fantastic week. And please make today, your best day yet.

 

Listen to me discuss this topic today on my daily podcast available at Hopefulist.com, on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and TuneIn. Just search for “The Hopefulist”!

My website is up and running everyone! I’m so freaking excited! It’s your one stop spot for everything “The Hopefulist”. Please check it out at Hopefulist.com.

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Keep an open mind!

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In this journey I am asking you to join with me on is going to seem crazy at times. I’m going to ask you to do some things that will make you feel silly. Do them anyway. I will never ask you do something that I don’t think will lead to a better life. I poo-poo’d a lot of things books have asked me to do over the years because they felt silly to me and I didn’t see how they would help. Sometimes you don’t see how they help until AFTER you do them. Like affirmations, vision boards, writing down your dreams and how you will feel once you get to your goal.

Remember that I am a former pessimist so I was very cynical about what these things action would actually do for me. So, I didn’t do them. I read all these books and never followed the actions they called for. It finally occurred to me one day…all the books are basically saying the same thing. Maybe, just maybe….there is something to it. And guess what? As soon as I started taking the actions they called for…my life started changing for the better.

A vision board? Seriously? What am I…a 12 year old girl? I’ve told the story before about the vision board I finally made and I ended up with a necklace that was the same exact one as on my vision board. Same exact one! I started a gratitude journal. I wrote things down and posted them on my mirror. Things like “Money is always flowing into your life”. I focus on money a lot. I like money….and want lot’s of it!

I know some of this is time consuming and I am aware of how much that is an issue for some of you. But I’m talking about stuff that will take only a couple of minutes. And then you need to rewrite stuff and reread stuff. Repetition, consistency, commitment. This is what you need. Again, this is why I do my podcast and blog daily. I want to help give you a little inspiration every single day. But you have to do your part.  You have to get started on that gratitude journal. Five things a day that you were grateful for…that’s all. Write down some affirmations and post them up all over the house. Get to writing down that dream of your and how it will make you feel once you have it. Write it, read it, repeat. Don’t just skim it everyday either. Feel the feelings you describe. Be excited for it. Picture it happening. I also write down my top 10 dreams every day. A tip from Rachel Hollis. And write them down as if they have already happened. Here is a picture of my list.

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These are the things that are most important to me right now. Growing my business is my number one priority so they take up the top spots. The way I feel and how I live my life is next…I want joy in my life. I wrote down that I am an exceptional wife because it reminds me to do things daily that make that statement true. It doesn’t happen everyday but more so often now than before I wrote that down everyday. Hosting my own talk show (which I basically already am), how much money I make and then some personal goals I’ve always wanted to achieve. Notice they are written as if they’ve already happened.

Come up with your own and write them down…every single day. Between this and your gratitude journal it should only be 10 minutes a day tops. If you can’t commit 10 minutes a day to your dream and living your best life then I probably can’t help you. YOU have to do the work. YOU have to make the decisions. No one can do it for you. Get committed to making this the best life it can possibly be. We only get one! Make it the most exciting, happiest and adventurous as it possibly can be. You can do it…I know you can!

Now, go have a fantastic weekend! Be safe in whatever you are doing. See you back here on Monday!

 

Listen to me discuss this topic today on my daily podcast available at Hopefulist.com, on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and TuneIn. Just search for “The Hopefulist”!

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BELIEVE – behaviors to adopt

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Probably one of the most important behaviors for you to have in life is to believe. That is why I put it in capital letters! You have to start with believing in yourself. Believe you can do anything you want to do. Have anything you want to have. Live the life you want to lead. If you don’t believe it, I can almost assure you it won’t happen. You have to dream big and believe you can make it happen. Because you know what? YOU CAN!

The life you want to live is all in your hands. Do you want your relationship to be better? Then talk to your partner about how to make it better for you both. Do you want a more exciting job? Then look for something that excites you! Is there a place you’ve been dreaming to live? Then move there! Again, it’s all so simple…but not easy. Some of these things are easier than others. Building a better relationship with your spouse shouldn’t be hard to get started. Just talk about it. Then you need to take the actions you discussed.

Changing jobs or moving can be a taller order. But you can take small steps that will lead you to that ultimate goal. Keep asking yourself if what you are doing is leading you to your goal? If not, figure out the steps that will and then get moving!

Are you a career-oriented person and you are far from where you want to be? Why? You need to ask yourself that question. What steps do you need to take in order to get you closer to your goal? Do you want to switch up careers altogether? Do you need some schooling? Look into classes and figure out how to work it into your schedule. And figure out how to pay for it. You can take little steps. Or you can just say…I’m going for it right now. If you are in the financial position to do that and you have a good support system than by all means…do it! But most of us can’t do that. So, take the little steps. But make you are constantly asking yourself if the action you are taking will lead you to your goal. If it isn’t…then don’t do it. Keep your eye on the prize!

Here is another important thing. Keep your promises. Especially to yourself. If you can’t keep the promises you make to yourself than you don’t really believe yourself. If you say you are going to save $100 dollars this month and put it in the bank. Do it. If you say you are going to hit the gym three days a week, then do it. Be very careful you can keep the promises you make because you have to stop letting yourself down. If you are unsure if you will keep up with your workout. Then promise yourself you will do it for just this week. Then reassess next week to see if you have the time and desire to continue. But please stop saying every Monday that you will eat good, workout and not drink during the week if you don’t do it. I would rather you not make any promises at all than to continue telling yourself things you never follow through on. But please stop lying to yourself and letting yourself down. It’s not good for you!

You really can do anything you decide to, but you absolutely must believe it first. I’m living such a great life now. I believed I could move to the shore full time. I believed we could afford a house here and we got one. I believe this blog and podcast will help inspire more and more people every day. And it will…I believe that. If I didn’t…what’s the point in even doing it? It has taken me a long time to get here but I believe in myself. If you don’t…you have to figure out how. I can help! Keep reading and keep tuning in. I will inspire and show you the positive in your life every day.

Here’s the crazy part that that may be hard to swallow. Ask yourself what you really want. Write it down. Describe the dream. Describe how it will make you feel once you achieve it. Describe how your life will be once you have it. Then read it over and over again. Several times a day. You have now asked the universe for what you want and it will start making it happen. You don’t have to know what it takes to get there yet. The path will reveal itself. I promise you. Keep reading your dream…think of ways to make it happen. And I assure you the path will unveil right before your eyes. Just try it. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Believe it will come to you. Because it will!

My life is so much happier and exciting than I ever thought it could be. And I believe there is so much more to come. I have so much more to do! It’s so much better than sitting around feeling sorry for myself thinking the whole world is against me. I’m not crazy about the person I used to be, but I did the work. I made the changes that I felt were right for me and made me a happier person. Hey, I was right! It’s working. And I know you can do it to. Stick with me. We’ll do it together.

It’s a “I wish it were cocktail Friday” Thursday. It’s almost the weekend. Now go make it your best day yet!

 

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Intuition – behaviors to adopt

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Hone and develop your intuition. It’s already there….we just need to start paying attention to it. Did you ever just know something without really knowing it? That’s your intuition. And it happens over and over again. Tune into it. Pay attention to it. Listen to it…it’s almost always right.

I’ve been told that I need to stop talking about my job loss. It’s time to put it behind me and move forward (which I totally am) but I need to mention this because it’s important. There had been some issues going on at work that were being discussed between myself and management. My boss had made a comment that made me think he considered me a complainer. So I didn’t want to go back to him for a follow up but he wasn’t getting back to me. I discussed with my husband the possibility of going right to the general manager but was worried it would appear I was going over my boss’ head. After mulling it over the whole weekend I told my husband that I had a really bad feeling. He told me to go ahead and contact the general manager then. And I did. I sent him an email the next day which was Monday. He never responded to my email. That Friday I lost my job. I knew something was coming. I could feel it. So, I heard my intuition and listened to it….it just didn’t do any good. But I knew something was coming and I wasn’t going to like it.

Did you ever walk into a place and just know you are supposed to be there? That has happened to me with numerous jobs. I’ve known the minute I walked into certain establishments that I would be working there. I knew the minute I walked into the house we ultimately purchased that this was the one. I could see myself walking through that door everyday and it already felt like home.

The same thing happened when I decided to start this blog and podcast. I had already started the blog, but it literally hit me like a bolt of lightening when I was at the gym one morning. I am going to start a podcast and I’m going to inspire people every day. I’m not going to get fired from jobs anymore for things that are not in my control. As the idea hit it started to grow. I got together with a friend of mine who is a podcast consultant. He showed me the way and I got it up and running within three weeks. Then I had an offer of help to design and launch a website. Yes! Let’s do it. While all these things are happening, I know deep down that this is my calling. This is what I was born to do. And nothing will stop me from getting to my goal. I know I will get there and this will be my dream come true. It’s meant to be. You know how I know? I can feel it. My intuition is telling me I’m on the right track. The path is unfolding as I go along. I am adding more and more as I go along. Listen to your heart. It will NOT steer you wrong.

How about meeting someone for the first time? I was introduced to a guy once at work that managed a radio station I was going to start doing news reports for. He wasn’t particularly good looking, but I had this feeling that he was going to be someone important in my life. I ended up dating him for two years, but it wasn’t like an instant attraction. More like a feeling of connection. It took us awhile to start dating. We spoke on the phone when I called in to do my reports for about six months before we started dating. I just knew when I met him that he would play an important part in my life and he did.

When it comes to honing your intuition, you just need to get quiet and listen to what your heart is telling you. It’s not easy but sometimes the answer has been right there all along and we just didn’t quiet our life enough to hear it. Start paying attention to the things that light you up. The places and people. You are leading yourself exactly where you want to go. You just need to pay attention.

It’s hump day! A great day to make some time to listen to your inner thoughts and feelings. Now go make it your best day yet! Talk to you tomorrow!

 

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Patience – behaviors to adopt

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Another tough one for me. They say you develop more patience when you have children. Guess what? I never had children! I am not a patient person….by any means. My husband loves to smoke his food. He’s got a monster grill that he loves to spend 6 to 12 hours cooking with depending on the meal. Twelve hours? I get annoyed waiting 6 minutes for my microwave dinner to heat up! I have gotten more calm and able to roll with the times a little better recently with the work I have done on myself and a little medication.

But being impatient is another behavior that doesn’t serve us well. First, it rushes us through life. Why the big hurry? I don’t really know but I must get to where I’m going as quickly as possible and spend the least amount of time possible waiting for anything. Why can’t we just enjoy the ride? Stuck in traffic? Take in the scenery. Check out other cars and watch people on the sly. Turn the music (or podcast) up and relax. You will get to where you are going. It’s not the end of the world.

I posted a picture of my Gerber daisies. Today is June 17 and I’m finally getting some play out of these stubborn little flowers. I don’t have a green thumb. I kill most things I try to grow but the Gerber daisies have always been my superstars. I’ve had great luck with them the past few years. So, I went out on May 3rd (I remember the date specifically because a friend was visiting and she was at the house when Joe and I replanted them) and bought four little plants to put in a big pot all together. Usually I would just buy them and keep them in the pot they came in but this time I replanted the four in a big pot I had purchased. Well, they quickly died off and no blossoms were popping up. Hmmm….did I mess up thinking I could actually replant something? Serves me and my black thumb right. Who do I think I am trying to put a whole bunch of flowers together, adding dirt and expecting them to grow? A freaking gardener? The leaves looked pretty good but there were no flowers growing. So, I kept watering them and asking them where the heck the blossoms were and telling it I was waiting for them.  They took their good old sweet time, but they finally started popping up. And as I look down between the leaves, I see a ton of them are on their way. My superstars are back! Took long enough but I didn’t give up. I gave them food, water, lots of love and they finally delivered. I was patient! The fruits of my labor now abound! And do you know how much more I enjoy and appreciate these flowers now? So much more than if they would have just performed right away (like they are supposed to!) But I kept at it and waited. And finally I am getting what I worked so hard for…beautiful flowers that should last through autumn.

This is just one example. We need to learn patience. It helps us enjoy the ride a little bit more. It gives us something to look forward to. It grounds us a little bit and lets us know we are not always in control. Sometimes we have to roll with it and follow along someone else’s timeline. And that’s okay.

It’s a Taco Tuesday! Now, go have your best day yet!

 

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Forgiveness – behaviors to adopt

 

This is one I really struggle with. I am a self-confessed grudge holder and it’s a hard habit to break. Even though I know it’s not doing me any good. Most of my grudges evolve over a slight or mistreatment that I didn’t feel I deserved. Not that we ever deserve to be treated badly but sometimes we understand why the other person is upset with us and it at least makes sense.

There are two major issues I’m struggling with right now. And they are pretty major. One is issues with my mom and the actions she put in place to occur after her death. The other is the loss of my most recent job. I don’t understand why either has played out the way it has. I am proud to say that I have grown so much on my own path that I don’t let it affect my daily life. I’m happy. I’m good. I’m getting to be great. But it still perplexes me as to why these things unfolded the way they did. It baffles me, it hurts me to my core. But we must move on with life, right? Because if we don’t, we are only hurting ourselves and the fighter in me thinks…Don’t let them win!

I know how hard it can be to forgive. Trust me, I know. But have you ever heard the saying that holding a grudge is like swallowing poison and waiting for the other person to die? It’s true! And when you forgive you aren’t really doing it for the other person. You are doing it for yourself. I’m not saying you should forgive people for treating you like crap and continue to allow them to do it. Not what I’m saying at all! If someone is treating you badly the boot them out of your life (even family) and then forgive them for their horrible behavior. It doesn’t mean you have to continue with that relationship. But forgive for your own sake and move on with your life. Don’t let it hold you back. Try not to wallow in it. I know it can be hard but again, you are only hurting yourself by doing that. The person that slighted you probably doesn’t give you a second thought and here you are living your life in revenge and misery for a person that doesn’t give a hoot about you. Don’t give them that power!

So, give it the Taylor Swift treatment and shake it off. We can walk this path together since I have some work to do with it as well. I know it is easier said than done to just let things go. But what you must remind yourself that you are only hurting yourself by hanging on to the bitterness and resentment. Don’t let other people dictate your happiness. Take control and get over it so you can live your best life. We will practice this together. It’s hard but I know we can do it.

It’s Monday! A brand new day of a brand new week full of possibilities! Monday has become my favorite day of the week (after Friday, Saturday and Sunday of course)! I no longer dread going in to work to deal with a co-worker who tries to bring me down. I am my own boss and doing my thing. I love what I am doing now and actually look forward to writing and recording come Monday morning. Don’t think you can get to the place where you love what you do every day? Neither did I! I will leave you with that thought. Now, go make it a great week and have your best day yet!

 

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Gratitude – behaviors to adopt

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I bet you are tired of hearing me talk about gratitude. Am I right? That’s why I waited until the end of this week to discuss it. But there is a reason I continue to harp on this repeatedly. Because it is the KEY to happiness. Think about it. It makes total sense. How can you be a happy individual if you aren’t grateful and happy about what is already in your life? There is always some good, somewhere.

I know we often feel like our lives suck and once a particular thing happens then things will get better. You can’t wait for something to happen. Because once you finally get what you are waiting for you will find you aren’t as happy and content as you thought you would be. Then you look to yet another thing to happen. It sets you up to constantly be waiting for something else to happen. You need to find what is good in your life RIGHT NOW. Put your focus on that. Be grateful for it. Thank the Lord or whoever you pray to (if someone) as often as possible. Just relish the things you love. You will start to feel a new appreciation for those things. You will focus on it more and more goodness will come into your life. Once you start being grateful…it’s like a contagious disease to the all the area’s in your life. You will start to notice improvement in everything. Don’t believe me? Just try it! You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

I’m lucky in the sense that I feel like I had a definite turning point. I moved to the shore. I prioritized living at the shore as the most important thing to me. Once I made that happen, I was just so happy and grateful to be living here that it was easy for me to start finding more and more to be grateful about. I never thought we would be able to afford to purchase a house but managed to make it happen within two years. I wasn’t having much luck finding a job outside of radio and poof….a morning show co-host position opened up. My husbands’ hours changed at work and we started bringing a little more money in.

It all seemed to tie together. I became a much happier person. My husband and I are constantly joking around with each other. Being goofy and making each other laugh. Life is good. Even through the bad times which of course still happen. I ended up losing that radio job and I’m making my way into what I hope is my next career, but it didn’t break me or keep me down for long as I feel it would have done in the past. Full disclosure; as I’ve mentioned before I am on an anti-anxiety medication that has helped me a great deal in getting through everyday issues more seamlessly.

But wherever you are, where you live, what you current relationship status or job title is….find something you love about it. I know you can find one thing about your life that you just love. Focus on that part…be grateful for it. Thank the universe for allowing you to have it. Cherish and cultivate it and see how it grows into other areas of your life. But you have to truly love and appreciate it, or it won’t work.

It’s Friday so you can look forward to a cocktail! Happy weekend! Hope it is fantastic and be safe in whatever you do. Talk to you on Monday.

 

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